Would you describe yourself as a sensuous woman?

Sometimes all you need is a nudge in the right direction.

Can you describe yourself as a sensuous woman? Would anyone you know consider you a sensuous person? Each one of us can most definitely be considered sensuous. It does not take much effort on our part and, most importantly, it does not require having someone of the opposite sex to help fulfill this attribute.

The dictionary explains the word sensuous as “aesthetically pleasing to the senses.” However, there is a notion that sensuousness is directly linked to the sexual appetite. Does that mean, therefore, that only if a woman is sexually active then, and only then, she is considered as sensuous?

During the 19th century, Milton modified the term ‘sensual’ into that of ‘sensuous’ to avoid the sexual overtones which the former conveyed. Nevertheless, there still remains the misconception that being sensuous means removing most of your clothing, coupled with the art of teasing and tantalizing the person you’re with, eventually bringing to fruition that which you had started. As mentioned earlier, each of us can be sensuous, it doesn’t matter how old we are, what we look like or with whom we’re copulating.

The book ‘The Sensuous Woman’ written by someone identified only as “J” is of a more or less differing opinion as to who a sensuous woman should be. It boasts of an author who is “not particularly pretty...not the type a man would automatically notice in a crowd or whistle at in the street.” Just someone who men yearn for and consider to be extremely sexy because of her sexual behaviour. Actually, the book is full of ways in which a woman can learn about her body and the ways it can be used thereafter – no matter how perverse some may consider it - to excite and pleasure her partner.

However, the women of Women- Wise give a wonderful description of themselves as being sensuous and define a sensuous woman using the following attributes,

“A smile. Quick to laugh. An arm ready to hug. Not afraid to show a tear. Healthy. Smart. Warm-hearted. Generous with time. Spiritual. Clean teeth. Humble. Graceful. Athletic. Sincere. Performs with integrity. Respectful. Fun to hang around with. Believes in moral values. Keeps a promise. Returns a phone call. Pays attention to details. Keeps things in perspective. Loves life’s ups and downs. A sensuous woman is confident and above all else is an inspiration and role model to others.”

The late Audrey Hepburn, in an interview, was asked to describe what makes a woman sexy and sensuous. Amazingly, not once did she make mention of the physical appearance of a woman as having an impact!

However, both physical aspects as well as personality traits are significant in identifying a sensuous woman. One thing which we should remember is that women are judged firstly on their appearance and secondly on how they speak. Therefore, you might want to make that first impression a lasting one when you enter into the spotlight! Make sure that you look your best and that you’re comfortable in what you’re wearing. The last thing you need is a piece of clothing or a pair of shoes to make you feel extremely uncomfortable. In addition to that, keeping yourself well-groomed is as important as remembering your name. A sensuous woman should never leave her home unless she looks and feels beautiful. Remember, being sensuous is synonymous with “pleasing the senses”.

Looking beautiful should always be complemented with beautiful words. Sensuous women should never say things which will make them seem uncultured. As a matter of fact, whatever comes out of our mouths must serve some purpose!

Being sensuous should never be considered tiring. As a matter of fact, it’s one of the most natural things in women. Sometimes, all we need is a nudge in the right direction. Here are some ideas to help in our quest to become sensuous women.

Be confident

Having confidence in yourself is the greatest tool in re-discovering your sensuousness. If you are a person who walks around with a bent head or one who walks into a room and then out in the blink of an eye, just to avoid people, then chances are that you lack confidence.

Remember that first impressions last. So, when you walk into your office or into the supermarket tomorrow, everyone who notices you should remember you for the woman who walked in boldly, looked at everyone, smiled beautifully, said something interesting and left with an everlasting air of accomplishment and confidence. It is guaranteed that everyone in that room will appreciate your striking gestures.

Be sincere

One thing that really is a turn off is someone who is not genuine. This quality can easily cause people to dislike you, especially if you come across as a very hypocritical person who just does and says things to impress those around you. Remember that most individuals are overwhelmed by a person who is sincere, and this is a quality which costs absolutely nothing.

How does sensuousness fit into this? Simple. Whenever you become a sincere individual, you will realize that you attract more people than you ever expected to—men and women —because they will recognize the value of your friendship and the truth which emanates from your being.

Be patient

Doesn’t it annoy you whenever a person just explodes because of lack of patience? This is indeed a quality in which each of us needs to become experts. However, a patient woman has the key to calming those around her and creating a serene atmosphere. She exudes comfort and reassurance, and motivates others to do the same.

The woman who possesses a patient mind listens attentively to things that are being said, processes it and responds in an appropriate manner at the appropriate time. She is not disruptive or harsh. But rather, she is pleasant and liberal in her judgement. This is a very important aspect of becoming sensuous—knowing exactly how to maintain patience and composure in whatever circumstance you find yourself.

Be exciting

Sensuousness is also about being able to excite those around you. It’s about maintaining an aura that suggests to others that you’re willing to take the chance in order to become a better individual. It’s about showing those around you that life is not supposed to be filled with monotony, but rather to be lived diversely.

A sensuous woman challenges herself to be more creative, more inspirational, more adventurous, more imaginative, more courageous, more enthusiastic, more generous, more successful, more enduring and most of all more exciting, and the list goes on and on.

Be beautiful

Beauty is not just about how you look. It has become somewhat of a cliché to say that inner beauty is more important than outer. But, although we might tire of hearing this, how many of us honestly believe it? In a world where we are bombarded daily with the idea of losing weight, getting face lifts, getting implants, using anti-age concoctions, wearing loads of make-up, changing hair colour, using vanishing/lightening creams, getting piercings... it’s no surprise that we think it imperative to look like what we consider to be the norm; to do things to our bodies because “it’s the latest trend.”

It really doesn’t matter what a woman looks like. It’s a fact that each one of us comes in different shapes, sizes and colours. However, you’re not supposed to be liked for how you look, but rather for who you are.

When you give of your inner beauty, your sensuousness automatically steps in, because a beautiful mind will entice others to find ways of actually becoming a part of your life.

In the end, knowing that you are “pleasing to the senses” will motivate you to continue being a magnificent individual, bringing forth the sensuous woman that you are and always have been.