I have been in a long distance relationship for the past three years. However, I have been under some criticism recently concerning this. Why is it that people often feel that it won't work, even if two people genuinely care for each other and are committed to making it work?

Distressed

Hey Distressed

The more important issue here is what do you think? Forget about how others feel. There will always be naysayers out there. I believe in one truism regarding relationships: If both you and your partner want it badly enough, anything is achievable. You 'hit the nail on the head' concerning what really makes or breaks relationships (long distance or otherwise) and that is, commitment to and genuine caring for another individual. If you are fortunate to have both components in your relationship, then who cares what anyone else thinks?

Hey Belle

I live in north Trinidad currently, and I love it. The only problem is that I can't seem to find things to do on dates. Where are the places that we can go to simply 'hang out'? I seem to have exhausted them all. Further, where are the nice restaurants that you can go to on a limited budget? I cannot afford the lavish restaurants, and can't seem to find a decent one to suit my budget.

North Girl- Trinidad

Hey North Girl:

What interests you? And what is your budget? Lacking this vital information, here are some general suggestions. If you like sporting activities, you could go hiking up Maracas, St. Joseph or go running on Lady Chancellor Hill. Want something more laid back? How about going to Movie Towne and taking in a blockbuster or two? Want something a little less pop-culture and more local, then take in a play at the Central Bank Auditorium or indulge in a live performance 'Under D'Trees' at the Normandie hotel. A visit to Cipriani Blvd. or Ariapita Ave. offers you myriad of eating places and even a relaxing wine bar. There are also great places further West like The Bight, Sails Restaurant and the Lighthouse with budget pleasing menus. Remember, you don't have to order only entrees at restaurants. You could enjoy and experience Trinidad's best restaurants by ordering from the bar menu or choosing appetizers to share with friends instead of pricier entrees. Most restaurants also have lunch menus or specials of the day that are more accommodating to a thrifty pocket. The options are limited really only by your imagination.

Hi Belle

Why is it that most hair dressers do not seem to know the difference between lowlights and highlights? Some even pretend to know and when they're finished with my hair it seems they had no idea of what they were doing. Can you clarify for me, the difference?

Bad hair-do

Hello Bad hair-do:

Both highlights and lowlights are colour enhancement techniques that add light and depth respectively to hair. The result is a multifaceted effect that can give you the look of movement, fullness and richness. Highlights offer another dimension to your base hair colour by lightening it. Most stylists use hues such as gold, honey, amber and reds to highlight. Lowlights add depth to the hair. Deeper shades are usually used to give contrast. Think plums and aubergine.

Are you specific in explaining your wants to your stylist? Before you commit to any service, ask for a consultation. Take a picture of what you have in mind. Show your stylist what you want. Keep in mind, that most colour charts at the salons show the range of colours dyed on light hair samples. So if you are brunette or dark hued, the colour will be vastly different. Your colour consultation is the time to ask questions and get explanations before any real commitment. A little prep work goes a long way!